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Who is setting your standard?
I ask the question because it seems like whatever we do we look for a benchmark or protocol or template from which to operate.
And in most cases there is surely a standard in place.
Take driving, for instance.
There are basic rules of the road that we all buy into and follow but what level of ownership do we have to personalize our driving techniques and set a new standard?
(I can sense my cop friends are getting nervous).
I always back into parking spots. I figure the landscape is static in that when I back in, all cars are stopped and there is not much activity to watch out for. Then driving out of my spot, into traffic and pedestrians and the neighbour’s dog who dashes out to see me, I am facing forward and fully aware. Fitting myself in to the traffic is so much easier. Backing into a parking spot is not a rule, and it’s a little more difficult to master, but it’s my standard.
Dick Fosbury, in his sophomore year, couldn’t clear the 1.5 meter bar in high jump, yet wanted to set a new standard for himself.
His desire led to the innovative “Fosbury Flop”, jumping over the bar back first.
(And it became much easier for Dick when his high school replaced wood chips in the landing area with a softer material! Ouch!)
If Dick had continued to accept that the straddle or scissor method were the only ones possible, and not dared to try something new, high jumpers might still be working to clear the 1.5 meter bar!
They say that public speaking is our biggest fear but I’m pretty sure what truly ranks #1 is the fear of looking stupid.
That fear makes us look for what’s normal and acceptable and quietly (but oh so powerfully) can be the road block that stops us from operating from a higher standard.
Aha – someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business
But we want so much to fit in, to be accepted! So much so that we’re willing to lose ourselves in the process.
Someone else is naturally going to see you through their eyes, through their conditioning, and through their standard.
What’s more important to owning your standard? Their opinion? Or yours?
When you follow the masses, sometimes the M is silent
(Oh, did I just say that???)